I have a dilemma

[JimDoe]

I need some imput on this on how to open the subject. A friend and coworker ( I don,t see him often) I,m retired now and love it. He had a morgs fiber sticking out of his neck one year ago. I saw it after work on our way home from a rooding job it was a hot day and we sweated. It haunted me and my heart bled. It was unmistakable. Two inches long floresent blue and bundled at the end. I said nothing. But I know a morgs fiber when I see one. I know he has at least the fiber part of this disease. We will work together again this coming week. I,m not scared to be near him. Its not that. I think hes doing fine and knows nothing of morgs disease we in this stage experince. I want to ask him if he feels crawling or itching and if so and what I saw that day on his neck protruding that day a year ago. He may have never saw it maybe. Probally took a shower and washed it off. But he may also be suffering and not complaining either. I will bring it up to inform him. Any thoughts about how to do this and not be so candid or crass. I really need some thoughts. There has to be a good way to approach how I inform him. He has a wife and children too.

[Baraka Obam]

There is no way to cure it as of yet the best we can do is stay healthy, he will have problems believing you. he may go home and tell his wife she may get all upset and spend all their money trying doctors out.

Ignorance is bliss, if he has his flesh intact let him be content untill it is not.

[Ghettogirl]

Hi JimDoe,

When you see him on this next job observe him like before. If you see signs of this dreaded illness again you can try to approach him for his advice.
If you see the colored fibers like you had mentioned, you could act like you are going to him for advice because you have the same thing.
Does that make sense?
Example: You see the fibers and you say something like... " My skin was really giving me problems you were wondering what he used or does for his symptoms".
Maybe that doesn't sound too good, but you get my point, right?
Sounded better in my head then when i tried to type it.
OMG... sorry Jim if i just made this worse lol, trying to help, i hope it did one way or another.
If he is going crazy from the symptoms you could just offer a suggestion for him to be comfortable and take it from there.
Sorry honey, it can be a sticky situation, whatever the situation is, go with however you feel at that time. If you try to do something uncomfortable for you chances are it won't come out right. No stress!
Good luck.
Ghettogirl

[jonsi]

Hi JD,

I agree with BO... I have seen clusters of fibers on my friends clothes, seen friends itching & with lesions, etc. I even called the parents of a girl in one of my daughter's classes a few years ago & although they listened they probably thought I was crazy (imagine that!).

Believe me, I don't think your friend will believe you.

Ghettogirl has the right approach. Ask your friend about his general health and if he says he is doing good then don't bring up "M". If he mentions symptoms of "M" you might mention that you have suffered from "M" and give him advice. But there is no "cure" for this and no reason to stress him out unless he asks for your help.

In the white light,
~jonsi

[JimDoe]

Originally Posted by Baraka Obam

There is no way to cure it as of yet the best we can do is stay healthy, he will have problems believing you. he may go home and tell his wife she may get all upset and spend all their money trying doctors out.

Ignorance is bliss, if he has his flesh intact let him be content untill it is not.

Barake i,ve known you for two years now.(Just had to throw that in there dude). I think he will have problems beleiving it to. So i,m not going fully there on it unless hes hurting.If so then I will have to offer help.You are so right about ignorance being bliss but to much ignorance might be hurtful if he is at a stage of it thats harmful. I haven,t seen him in a year. Thats what I need to find out. GhetoGirl I will be very observant of him. This sounds offbeat and is. I will have the rare opritunity (Blah) spelling to observe this from a outside perspective for two days of someone I know is aflicted, I will even get to spend the night with him.LOL! at a motel room we will all share. Its near the coast, call me seafood Jim for two days. I wish a DOP doctor could come along. This is rare indeed. I,ll wear my science hat. I,ll only be gone from the board for two days this time, thats better than 59 in the DWI tank. UGH!
Being funny but I,m not worried about morgs ( I,ve got that) its the dang bed bugs and hotel rooms. That shakes me up. I,m going to my room and pout now.I love you people here. But thats another story.

[cynical]

That is a legit fear these days Jim Don't leave your overnight bag on the floor and check the box springs edges for signs. When you get home unload everything outside of your house LOL. They are even having problems with bed bugs in Movie theaters in Southern California.

As far as your co worker I agree with everyone else. Best not to mention unless they show definite signs and above all else seem open to hearing it.

Cyn

[JimDoe]

I,m not trying to be sappy, But the smartest people I know in life live here. Oops! Now how did that get past my smart bot. Dumb key!

[JimDoe]

Hi Cyn,
does this mean we can be friends once again,I sure hope so.
I,m the well read informed one of our group. Duh! on me. Poor suckers!! Its already established that we will shower and take our bags back to the truck to spend its lonely night . I made that rule. If one of us gets BB then we all do eventually. I miss our friendship we once enjoyed Cyn.

[JimDoe]

Originally Posted by cynical

That is a legit fear these days Jim Don't leave your overnight bag on the floor and check the box springs edges for signs. When you get home unload everything outside of your house LOL. They are even having problems with bed bugs in Movie theaters in Southern California.

As far as your co worker I agree with everyone else. Best not to mention unless they show definite signs and above all else seem open to hearing it.

Cyn

You got that right Cyn, above all else the open to hearing it part will be on him. I,ll be careful in my aproach. Its so easy to be misunderstood on helping with others. Some things never get aproved and hurting hurts. I hurt for the ones its killing. I know you do to.

[cynical]

Hi Jim,

Past is in the past. Glad you have it planned out ahead of time.

Cyn