EFT: Universal Healing Aid

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What to Do When You Are Not Getting Results
Negative beliefs may interfere with EFT, or any energy treatment from working very effectively. Some of the more common ones that might need to be treated include:

I don't believe these treatments will work.
I believe EFT works, but not for me.
I doubt that EFT will work.
Even if EFT does work, I am afraid it won't last.
I don't trust myself to stay free of these problems from now on.
I am afraid that these treatments won't work.
I am afraid that the problem will come back.
Here are common dynamics that show up as treatable problems. One needs to be alert to these.
I'm afraid to give up my hopelessness, helplessness, fear, dependency, etc.
I doubt it will happen.
I'm supposed to be rejected.
I don't trust myself to live it out.
I'm supposed to be disapproved of.
I don't feel safe with ... (whatever the situation is)
I have to be perfect about everything.
I fear something like this problem will happen again.
I doubt that I will really be able to do this.
Relationship Problems
The following list is an extensive, but certainly not exhaustive, compilation of thoughts, attitudes, beliefs and emotions that are often problems, especially in relationships.

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Abandoned
Despondent
Horror
Rage
Untrusting
Agony
[b]Devastated</SPAN>
Horrified
Rebellious
Vulnerable
Afraid
Disappointed
Hurt
Rejected
Wasted
Alone
Discouraged
Inadequate
Rejecting
Wary
Angry
Disgusted
Indignant
Resentment
Worried
Anxious
Dismay
Insecure
Sadness
Worn out
Apprehensive
Disoriented
Invalidated
Deep Sadness
Ashamed
Doubt
Lazy
Scared
At a loss
Dread
Lethargic
Scorn
Betrayed
Embarrassed
Lonely
Self-conscious
Blame
Empty
Loss
Shame
Bored
Emptiness
Lost
Shattered
Burdened
Enraged
Mad
Silly
Cheated
Exhausted
Melancholy
Sorrow
Concerned
Fatigued
Mortified
Deep Sorrow
Confused
Fearful
Offended
Suffering
Crazy
Hapless
Outraged
Suspicious
Crushed
Heartache
Overwhelmed
Terror
Cornered
Heartbroken
Persecuted
Tired
Defeated
Heartsick
Pressured
Tortured
Dejected
Heaviness
Punished
Trapped
Depressed
Helpless
Put down
Traumatized
Despair
Humiliated
Put upon
Uncertain

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The bolded words are common when dealing with issues of loss such as the death of a loved one. These items can appear in a variety of situations. A person may have the feeling toward someone else as well as toward themselves, feeling rejected or disgusted and feeling disgusted and rejecting toward the rejecter at the same time.



Tearless Trauma Technique
1. Identify a specific traumatic incident from their past. Ideally it should be at least 3 years ago to minimize any complications from the dynamics of a current event. An example might be, "the time my father punched me when I was 12." By contrast, the phrase "my father abused me" would be too broad because, chances are, the abuse took place over many, many incidents.
Please stay on your original issue because it will be easy to shift to other issues as you resolve the original one.
2. GUESS at what your emotional intensity would be (on a 0-10 scale) IF you were to vividly imagine the incident. DO NOT to actually imagine it (although some will close their eyes and do this anyway). This GUESS is a surprisingly useful estimate...and...it serves to minimize emotional pain. Write your GUESSES down.
3. Develop a phrase to use for the EFT process such as "this father-punch emotion" and then proceed with a round of tapping.
4. After this round of tapping, GUESS again and go around the room asking them to state their new number.
5. Additional rounds of EFT usually a total of 3 or 4 rounds will bring just about everyone down to GUESSES of 0 to 3.
6. Once everyone is down to acceptably low GUESSES, then perform another round of tapping and, after this round, you will vividly imagine the incident.

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When Should You Do EFT?
You can do it:
1. As soon as you wake up
2. Before every meal
3. Every time you go to the bathroom
4. When stopped at stoplights
5. When you go to bed

Goal Setting
Your Consistent Thoughts Become Your Reality
All personal growth reduces down to the above sentence. Dreams don't necessarily come true but they DO take you in directions.
Your habitual vocabulary has a subtle and powerful ability to condition your mental system. Which is a better statement, "I can't" or "I don't know how yet"? Shifting your vocabulary will shift your entire outlook.
You get what you focus on. Pessimists see what is wrong in the world. Optimists see opportunity. Yet, it's the same world. What do you see? Whatever it is, it's a reflection of your consistent thoughts.