Hi Baraka,
I think you are right on the earlobe theory.
While visiting Panama in 1977 I met a Chinese Acupuncture/acupressure MD who wrote a book on ear lobes and how they show illness. (Very strange coincidences brought me to this man and his messages still stick in my mind... a long, strange trip, indeed!)
Have you checked out reflexology? I recommend this book:
Amazon.com: The Parent's Guide to Reflexology:... This book references pressure points for healing and can be applied to everyone, no matter how old one is.
If I were you, I would start massaging my earlobes. I would also get a golf ball (or something similar) and start rubbing it between your palms and rolling it under your feet, paying attention to where you feel pain in these areas. I hope it helps.
In the white light,
~jonsi