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You see much of your power is in your words. The thoughts you think and the words you say are constantly creating your future. Your beliefs shape your life. The things you say are extension of your thoughts. This is why it is so important to never, ever berate yourself. Always tell yourself you are doing the best you can. If all you do is tell yourself you are fat and ugly and you hate yourself this way, then you stay stuck. You need loving support and then you can make changes. You need to constantly forgive yourself for not being perfect. Too many of us think we have to be bad or wrong before we can be changed but we really don't have to do that. When you come from love and acceptance the changes can become much easier. You make a change because you want to improve the quality of our life, not because you are a bad person that wants to become better. Just tap in "I'm doing the best I can, I'm doing the best I can." Remember, you need to constantly forgive yourself for not being perfect.
Do EFT about ten times per day This will allow you to obtain maximum benefit from the technique. It will also be enormously helpful if you can do this in front of a mirror paying careful attention to looking into your eyes. Your energy will be reflected off the mirror and add a profound synergism to the EFT tapping. When in public you only need to use one hand and can lightly touch each point and hold it there for five seconds while "tuning into the problem" and repeating the affirmation. This way no one will realize what you are doing. EFT: Alternative Approaches and Final Recommendations

Psychological Reversals
The most common reason that psychological reversal does not change is that the affirmation was not said strongly enough or with enough emphasis. Most people will quietly state the affirmation I have frequently seen that it was necessary for the client to nearly shout the statements prior to the reversal shifting. Criteria Related Reversals
These are subconscious mechanisms that may be in place and blocking the client's ability to successfully resolve their reversal.
Deservedness This is the most commonly seen of the criteria-related reversals. Common sense dictates that if a person consciously or unconsciously holds the position that he or she does not deserve o get over a problem, attempts to alleviate the problem will be met with considerable resistance. This reversal is common among trauma survivor, patients, with eating disorders, and those who have violated closely help personal values and morals.
Safety If the client experiences the problem as affording some level of safety, it will not easily be resolved. This consideration does not necessarily apply to situations that are truly unsafe or dangerous. This reversal is common among clients with anxiety-related conditions and even clients suffering from chronic pain.

Possibility/Doubt
Some clients experience deep doubt about their ability to resolve the presenting problem, for whatever reasons. While doubt by itself does not signal a reversal, if it is deep enough it will be consistent with a reversal.

Permission
In many instances this operates in conjunction with another, such as safety or deservedness. It is as if the energy system is saying, "I won't allow myself to get over this problem because it isn't safe to get over it" or "I won't allow myself to over this problem because I don't deserve to get over it."
Deprivation
Especially in the treatment of addictions, the issue of deprivation may serve to block progress. When this type of reversal is diagnosed, a discussion around this issue is appropriate.